At some time, perhaps we all could use a good coach in our corner. Even coaches need a good coach - why not?! Because that is what good coaches do. They stand in your corner. They back you up. They see your strengths and talents, and hold up the mirror for you to see too. They move you to action on achieving your dreams. They work with you to carry your ball down the field.
Now consider that person who, instead of competitive sports, is backing you to help you achieve your dreams in life – to find balance for work, family and friends. Someone who can listen to you closely to what is really going on in your life now. Someone who can help you discover and create the fun, the lifestyle and the care you desire and deserve. Imagine a person who is invested in your best interest to empower you to see life in a new perspective with more possibilities.
Sometimes you just feel like you are pushing a rope up the hill, or knocked off your feet with a big change - loss of a loved one, a job loss, a break up or divorce. It's enough to make you question everything you do? Yesterday, I lost a friend, one I just got to know. A wonderful, warm and kind human being who gave her heart to everyone she met lost her life tragically. She just celebrated her birthday and her wedding day only 2 days away. I don't want to come off as selfish and compare my grief to those in her family. I can't imagine how her son, her family and fiancé must be feeling, My thoughts and prayers are with them.
I really just wanted everything to stop yesterday, to remember a special lady, and for the world to stop turning, but there are bills to pay and people expecting me keep up my responsibilities. How are you supposed to deal with it all at once? I get all this from firsthand experience. That’s how it felt for me when we suddenly lost our dad and again yesterday when I lost a dear friend. I am lucky to have met her and had her friendship. Friendship, like love, is built upon a feeling - an instinct that tells us when something fits.
I’m a better person for having met her and being on the other side of loss, But it’s not as simple as,"when one door closes, another door opens", what is missing in that statement is what happens on the path between those doors! My greatest fear of moving on from losing dad, my friend, aunts, uncles, and my families family and love lost was that I would somehow leave them behind if I moved on – forget them or in the case of love lost they would forget me – lose the memories – the closeness of their touch, their smile and the sound of their voice. In looking back I realize that I thought letting go of hanging on to feeling the grief and allowing joy back into my life meant letting go of their memory. Today I know that the opposite is true. I have found a way to live a happy life and still hold my dads memory and the memories of those I have lost in life and in love, live close by in spirit.
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance” Eckhart Tolle
Your family and friends is your treasure chest - cherish them. They are more important than money, fame, cars, the clothes, houses, boats, or the overseas holidays you may have.
It doesn't have to be heartbreak - I survived. I learned that losing someone is a test of life and you have no control over the challenges that life throws at you. What you do have however is the power to control your response to these life challenges.
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