The Awesome Coaching Connection

 

Awesome coaching finds the awesomeness within the client and connects on deeper more personal level.

 

Helping someone find what’s fun and joyful in their life, and to chase it is what I feel makes an awesome coach.  From love, life, transition, job, moving nutritious eating, movement, and health habits as a path to living life with purpose, talking  about getting outside to play. About feeling good in your body, not ashamed or exhausted.

 

“Leadership is getting someone to do what they don’t want to do, to achieve what they want to achieve.”  Tom Landry

 

I believe an awesome coach helps guide clients on the roadmap to total wellness. While clients may be hesitant, I believe in taking their hand and offer to go in with them rather than shoving them forward alone. To be able to peer into what they truly want to achieve, even if they don’t even know it yet, is a remarkable feeling and requires communication and trust that is founded on knowing yourself first.

This currently is the task at hand - to do a fearless personal inventory of my own strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats will provide me, to do the pros and cons of what I am faced to decide. With a great first step in understanding what I bring, how I show up in the eyes of others and help me develop the confidence to be myself— to be unique.

 

Client-centered coaching

As a coach, I have been trained and have the experiential life experiences. But you are the experts on your own bodies and lives. You live in your bodies and experiences 24-7. I don’t. I understand that people have their own abilities and reasons for change. My job is to find and develop these. When you can identify your own limiting factors and then propose your own solutions, we have a recipe for sustainable, long-term behaviour change.  We tend to believe what we hear ourselves say -so, if you are able to create and describe a solution, you are more likely embrace the change.

 

Remember, it’s about making decisions based on what really works best for YOU - It is not based on what I think should work best for YOU. 

 

Here are some helpful ways to get you started:

Language is powerful ~ ask yourself the tough questions

• What things are most important to me?
• How does my exercise and eating fit into this?
• What sorts of things would I like to accomplish in my life?
• What would I like to see change?
• If things were better with my eating/exercise, what would be different?
• What have I already tried? What worked/didn’t work?

Imagine ~ visualize a new way of being

• Imagine I can…
• Imagine I am already…
• Imagine that I have the body and health I desire. What did it take for me to achieve it?

Breed success - focus on what worked in the past

• In the past, when as I successful with this, even just a little bit?
• How could we do more of that?

Speculate ~ think outside the box

• I wonder what it would be like if I…
• I wonder if we could try…

Change talk ~ put the shoes on

• In what ways does this concern me?
• If I decided to make a change, what makes me think I could do it?
• How would I  like things to be different?
• How would things be better if I changed?
• What concerns me now about my current relationship, job, exercise and eating patterns?

Assess readiness ~ time make the change

If you decided to change, on a scale of 1-10, ask yourself how confident are you that you could change, when 1 represents not at all confident and 10 equals extremely confident.  Keep dividing a large problem or challenge into small, manageable steps until you can handle it.

Generate solutions ~ plan next steps

• So, given all this, what do I think I will do next?
• What’s next for me?
• If nothing changes, what do I see happening in five years? If I decide to change, what will it be like?
• How would you like things to be different?

Bringing it all together

Now that you have some ideas for powerful coaching language to use, you have a foundation for change ~ apply them in some specific scenarios to move the change forward.