When all is said and done in our lives, most of us find that our greatest treasures were tender and heartfelt moments shared with others. So remember that as you journey through your life. Next time someone you care about is feeling blue, isn't well, receives a terminal diagnosis, or is simply getting really old, make time to share your heart with them. Override the desire to buy into your own excuses about how you don’t have the time or energy or don’t know what to say or do or it simply doesn't work for you to show up for them.
I just came back from a month trip being a caregiver to a friend who suffered a massive stroke a couple years ago, and even though her recovery has been extraordinary and she has regained some of her strength and capabilities, when the initial diagnosis was she wouldn't talk again let alone walk, she is doing it! I learned so about myself by spending time caring for her and that to give is to receive. The most valuable gift is the gift of yourself.
I’ve adopted a favourite expression that we are all doing the best we can. Each of us is an assortment of skills, abilities, fears, traits and preferences. Compassion comes forward when we realize that how we think another “should” behave is of no significance. I needed to think about what it would be like if I walked in her shoes, and that I would likely behave no differently than she does and that compassion for one another goes a very long way.
Whether you are the person who is ill or the one loving and supporting, your job is simply to do your best to be true to yourself without hurting others. Pay attention inwardly and be bold about honoring yourself.
Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.
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